According to Kirwa, men should always ensure they are long gone before sunset whenever they visit their partner’s parents. In his view, drawing this clear boundary is the only way a man can command lasting respect from his in-laws.
The outspoken MC acknowledged that his stance is unpopular, especially among women, but urged men to stand firm and ignore the criticism.
He went as far as saying that if a girlfriend or wife becomes upset because the man refuses to spend the night, he should walk away calmly and deal with the situation later. “In the end,” Kirwa argued, “her parents will respect you more for it.”
Kirwa further insisted that even if the in-laws themselves plead with a man to stay overnight, he should decline without hesitation—“bounce like a bad cheque,” as he dramatically put it.
In his view, a man who spends nights at his in-laws’ home forfeits any chance of earning genuine respect from them.
As expected, Kirwa’s remarks triggered strong reactions online, with many women strongly opposing his school of thought.
Critics dismissed his views as outdated and old-fashioned, arguing that modern relationships should be free of rigid rules.
They maintained that adults should be allowed to make their own choices about where and how they spend their time—without being boxed in by traditional expectations.
Whether seen as wise counsel or relic thinking, one thing is certain: Chris Kirwa’s comments have struck a nerve and sparked a conversation that many can’t seem to ignore.
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